<![CDATA[ginger root garden - blog]]>Sun, 25 Apr 2021 02:08:55 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[Boundaries & Expectations]]>Fri, 23 Apr 2021 17:45:48 GMThttp://gingerroot.garden/blog/boundaries-expectationsAs I start to dream and think about online spaces and communities I want to partake in, or create, (or… have created already—hey stardew.city) I’ve been hearing more, and seeing more from folks I follow about boundaries in online spaces. You have the right to set boundaries for yourself in offline spaces and the same applies to an online space: your personal page, pages or other spaces you manage (brands, art, etc.) or are otherwise a part of, texting/messaging, groups, or whatever. The instantaneous “connection” to others from following them online, or the ability to have instant access to them through DMs or a messenger username, can lead to overfamiliarity and the crossing of boundaries.
I have been targeted online and harassed, and with having already had PTSD from the crossing of boundaries and violation offline I am particularly sensitive to this issue. I left a lot of corporate/popular social media because of harassment, and even if my new online spaces I see issues all of the time related to privacy, consent, and the inability to curate a space with boundaries in mind. Not being able to turn off direct messages, different inboxes in direct messages, no adequate block feature, privacy settings for posts, a note section or other tracking/organizing ability to keep track of blocking or messages or reports, a proper Code of Conduct for users… Taking the time to think about harassment and bad actors and other predatory people when developing your tools and spaces is so important, but I digress.
From these experiences, the need to communicate my own personal boundaries and expectations in my space has become more important. Especially, when so much of our world is able to try to access us from the palm of our hand or in another room on a larger computer, it’s important to think about who can and should have access to you all of the time (it can be no one!), how often you’re able and willing to respond (it doesn’t have to be daily!), and when you’re going to disconnect for a while (you should take the time to do it!). So, what I’m going to attempt to do is outline my boundaries and expectations of others in my online spaces—what I will and will not tolerate, addressing familiarity, addressing access to me, addressing both new people in my space and people who know me from other online or offline spaces, re-sharing content, and who knows what else. I will do my best to break them down into categories or sections~!
Following and Familiarity
            If you decide to follow me, please know I might not follow you back, even if we know each other from offline or other online spaces. It’s likely nothing personal, just me exercising my desire to curate online spaces the way I’d like them to be. You may think you know me (or not), but please don’t take that as an invitation to make statements and assumptions about me. I show different parts of myself in different spaces, I have grown and learned and continue to do so daily. I am not the most open or vulnerable person, so your thoughts and assumptions about me may be wrong unless we’ve explicitly talked about the issue together, or I’ve posted in length about it.
            All I ask is that you do not spite follow or follow me to keep tabs on me. If things I post make you upset or uncomfortable, you’re not obligated to stay following me just because we know each other elsewhere. You’re always free to unfollow, I won’t be offended.
Comments and Direct Messages
            I reserve the right to block, restrict, delete comments, or do whatever else I feel is necessary to remove people from my space. If you’re spreading misinformation or bigotry, you’ll likely be on the receiving end of any or all of those methods. If you’re here to troll, harass, or just be annoying you’ll also likely be on the receiving end of a block or have other restrictions placed.
  • Do not DM me or comment things with a sexual nature or trying to initiate any kind of romantic connection. I’m not interested.
    • I do not sell nudes or videos, nor do I have an OnlyFans for that kind of content. If any of that changes, I’ll post about it and share links.
  • Do not ask me for other forms on social media or access (phone number, discord, etc.) unless we’ve established some sort of rapport, or have previously known each other in another space.
  • Do not unload trauma or ongoing issues with others in my comments or DMs unless given consent to do so AND it’s relevant to what is being posted or shared.
  • Do not offer me advice or try to educate me on something I did not ask for help with. If there’s not a question ask for help or advice, don’t give any!
  • Do not tag people in my post or send someone my post just to stir up shit. I didn’t tag them for a reason.
  • Do not act like I am an attack dog. If you have a call-out to post, please use your own voice. If I have anything to contribute, I’d be happy to help.
  • Do not engage trolls, harassers, or other people intending to ruin people’s days with bigotry.
            If you want to talk about posts or information I’ve shared or posted: that’s great. If I am sharing misinformation, sharing content from, or interacting with someone who is known to be harmful please let me know!
I am open to learning, discussion, sharing resources, and rethinking, but I will not be fighting about or debating anything. I know my perspective is limited for many reasons, but I do my best to listen and learn, and I do my best not to speak about things I know little about. I would appreciate kindness and patience, just as I hope to extend the same to you.
Please know I may not answer, for a variety of reasons. I may not have seen it or I may not have the time or energy. Verbalizing (even with the time I can take with a typed response) is often difficult for me. Words get jumbled and lost, I have a hard time processing information sometimes.
Sharing and Support
            If there’s something I’ve created that you want to share, please use the sharing tool in the app directly from my page (FB, Instagram, retweeting/boosting, whatever). You do not need to tag me if you use these methods.
            If you’re sharing a post I’ve made on your page, or somewhere else please tag me! I would appreciate a tag on the image itself, as well as a tag within the text of the post. If tagging is not an option please link directly to the original post.
            If you’d like to treat me or support me, all of my links for $upport are found at the “Support” tab on my website. I do not have any wishlist, and any changes to that or the links will be updated/up to date on my website.
<![CDATA[aka ginger]]>Mon, 04 Jan 2021 14:21:01 GMThttp://gingerroot.garden/blog/aka-ginger i never know what to write about myself...

for one, i prefer lowercase letters. i try to otherwise follow "proper" rules of writing, but i really do not feel the need to capitalize unless for emphasis or if it is a name or something of that variety, but even then i am not entirely consistent. i've usually changed this for blogs or other public writings, but i would rather be me.

i was born march 24 and my location and time make me an aries sun and moon, with a cancer rising. my enneagram is 5w4, my mbti is infj. my politics are heavily left leaning, but i couldn't give myself a label besides being anti-capitalist. i'm white, cis, asexual but bi-leaning (aka: queer), and use both she/her and fae/faer pronouns.

i've been diagnosed with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), bipolar 2, and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). i am believed to be autistic, and possibly have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) but outside of my own expertise i have not been formally diagnosed with the last two. it's important to note that it is incredibly difficult for adult women to get a diagnosis of ASD (autism spectrum disorder), so it is unlikely that i will ever receive a formal diagnosis even if i seek one. and that's not even mentioning the expense. i have a lot of allergies and digestion issues, issues regulating body temperature, asthma, undiagnosed chronic pain, and my PTSD has definitely impacted my cognition and memory.

i have a bachelor's degree in psychology, and almost graduated with my master's and went on to be a clinical mental health counselor. i am very well versed in topics of mental health, and continue my education outside of school by learning from my peers and studies published. i enjoy reading about mental health, psychology, wellness, changing perspectives (decolonizing) on these topics, peer support, and politics and psychology.

i feel in my life i have often been dismissed, unheard, or outright ignored, so i go online to process things and feel heard from people outside of my offline life. i have often found refuge in online communities, and think social media is amazing for connection and support. i have been in online communities since i was a young teenager, and continue to find enjoyment and connection there. right now, i am admin to a small instance on mastodon. i have been on the fediverse for a few years now, switching instances a few times, after leaving most popular social media sites.

i enjoy reading, video games (the sims, dragon age series, elder scrolls series, stardew valley, minecraft, fallout series, rpgs, etc.), tv shows (bob's burgers, this is us, schitt's creek, steven universe, pose, ID programs, game shows, reality competitions,  etc.), floral print, pigs, fairy lights, quiet, warm weather, the color green, napping, astrology, art, potatoes, allergy-free products, natural lighting, selfies, matte makeup, introspection, decorating, and probably more things that i just can't think of at the moment.  i love assessments and personality tests of sorts, i find the information to be good to reflect on regardless of if i agree with the results.

i have a partner, and a dog (penelope), and a cat (quinn). we share our living space with his family and hope to make it our own one day, with some more space for sharing. i live on stolen Susquehannock land (central PA), previously lived on stolen Lenapehoking land (near Philadelphia).

i hope to present introspection, vulnerability, and lots of resources. i hope for people to get to know me and the topics i talk about better, asking questions, pursuing knowledge. if you follow me on other social media, you can expect to see similar topics i share to appear here. i hope we can create community here (well, not directly here, but together online). i hope we can have a support system here when folks are in need. i hope to help others as much as i can, when i can. i hope to be accessible, providing image descriptions, closed captioning, proper contrast in graphics, readable fonts,  content warnings, etc.

thanks for reading, stay awhile.